Not sure how everyone feels, but am I the only person who still thinks like they’re in their 20s; wants the energy they had 10 years ago, and ability to continue to behave like they’re 20? However, for me, I have two kids and have been with my husband for 15 years and known him for over 20 years. Not only will your body reject trying to act like you did in your 20s, but also you learn how to accept that you’re aging.
What comes with it is wisdom and life experience. If you allow it to shine through instead of acting selfishly and make decisions that are in your best interest instead of your children, you haven’t allowed yourself to grow. Children will change how you look at the world and ultimately affects the decisions you make and why. This is where the “devil” tries to seep in and appeals to your selfish side. The side that tries to justify bad decisions, like not putting your kids first or spending money irresponsibly that should be going to them.
Perspective is crucial to how you behave and why. Though, decisions always come with consequences; some good and some bad. I’ve made my fair share of bad decisions. They were made when I was in my 20s and as I’ve gotten older, I look back and wish I had been mature, and better equipped to make decisions about other people who counted on me.
Now I’m playing catch up; always trying to make up for the selfish decisions I made. I want to really know my daughters and make sure they know I will always be there for them. Taking back the choices you possibly regret isn’t an option. All you can do now is evaluate decisions that affect your family and hope you’ve grown enough to recognize when you’re not putting the right people first. It is like the example of when an oxygen mask drops in an airplane. Making sure you are ok and taking care of yourself will ultimately guide you in the right direction to help people around you.